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THE SOLUTION

The solution is to become your own loving parent.

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As ACA becomes a safe place for you, you will find freedom to express all
the hurts and fears that you have keep inside and to free yourself from the
shame and blame that are carry-overs from the past. You will become an adult
who is imprisoned no longer by childhood reactions.

You will recover the child within you, learning to love and accept ourself.

The healing begins when we risk moving out of isolation. Feelings and buried
memories will return. By gradually releasing the burden of
unexpressed grief, we slowly move out of the past. We learn to re-parent
ourselves with gentleness, humor, love and respect.

This process allows us to see our biological parents as the instruments of
our existence. Our actual parent is a Higher Power whom some of us choose to
call God. Although we had alcoholic
or dysfunctional parents, our Higher Power gave us the Twelve Steps of
Recovery.

This is the action and work that heals us: we use the Steps; we use the
meetings; we use the telephone. We share our experience, strength, and hope
with each other. We learn to restructure
our sick thinking one day at a time.

When we release our parents from responsibility for our actions today, we
become free to make healthful decisions as actors, not reactors. We progress
from hurting, to healing, to helping. We awaken to a sense of wholeness we
never knew was possible.

By attending these meetings on a regular basis, you will come to see
parental alcoholism or family dysfunction for what it is: a disease
that infected you as a child and continues to affect you as an adult. You
will learn to keep the focus on yourself in the here and now. You will take
responsibility for your own life and supply your own parenting.

You will not do this alone. Look around you and you will see others who know
how you feel. We love and encourage you no matter what. We ask you accept us
just as we accept you.

This is a spiritual program based on action coming from love. We are sure
that as the love grows inside you, you will see beautiful changes
in all your relationships, especially with your Higher Power, yourself, and
your parents.

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